So there is this guy that I met at a party a few months back. We hit it off, he asked from my number, but then I didn’t hear from him. Since at the time I was just starting to get involved with someone else, I didn’t really think anything of it. Just as that short-lived thing that was starting back then was imploding, I ran into this guy again at a bar. He came up and seemed super excited to see me, said we should hang out soon, and then I never heard anything. So I ran into him a couple of nights ago and he came up to me again and said hi, and mentioned that he had texted me asking if I was there. At which point a realization dawned on me, and I asked, “What number do you have for me?” My number was one digit off in his phone, and he had apparently been texting me and not getting any responses, and was still miraculously super nice and friendly and not awkward every time we ran into each other.
The point of this story is that he just asked me to get a drink with him tonight, and while I would actually kind like to spend more time with him and see if there is any long-term chemistry there, the thought of a one-on-one first date scenario kind of breaks me out in hives/makes me feel like vomiting and I don’t want to do it. Also I’m not sure that I want to date at all right now, for various reasons, including the fact that I am an introvert and I have so much going on already at the moment and I don’t know that I’m up for that kind of emotional exertion? Like the last time I did it was because I didn’t feel horrible at the thought of it, but that happens like once in a million years and starting out with new people is fucking HARD.
If I had some friends that were “coincidentally” already hanging out tonight and could invite him along in a low-pressure situation, that would be ideal.